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by Xiomara A. Sosa
June is Pride Month. The sexual and gender minority communities are affirming their right to happiness, safety, equal rights and protections under the law, and an existence free of regulated bigotry and discrimination. However, many still do not understand why laws specifically addressing hate crimes, especially against the sexual and gender minority communities, exist or why they are important. In this post, we explore one of America’s most tragic homophobic hate crimes and the laws, movements and attitudes that it inspired. Read more at http://newlatina.net/hate-crimes-the-psychology-behind-homophobia/
By Xiomara A. Sosa, Clinical Mental Health – Forensic Counselor (Intern)
Founder and Principal, XAS Consulting, LLC
Executive Creator, National Hispanic Mental Health Professionals Network (HMHP)
Hurricane season officially started June 1 and lasts through November. The National Hurricane Center has predicted another busy hurricane season. We have already witnessed devastating tornadoes in Oklahoma. As someone who experienced 9/11up close and personal, I understand intimately how first hand and vicarious trauma from manmade and natural disasters can have an insidious affect on our psychological wellbeing. I was not above it. It was delayed onset for me and I eventually chose to seek help and recovered. I also watched helplessly and lived through the deep personal pain of a loved one battling the damage that came as a result of personal and war zone related trauma. After a long road to recovery for us both, I am now a fierce advocate dedicated to breaking down stigma and advocating for others to seek help when they experience any kind of trauma before it consumes them and their loved ones and causes unnecessary suffering. I now provide disaster mental health services to first and second responders as well as humanitarian workers during emergencies and disasters. And I am beyond proud of my loved one who is now one of the top emergency managers in the field after retiring from an impressive successful Air Force career.
What is a Critical Incident and How Does Culture and Development Affect Survivors?
A critical incident is the actual event that precipitates the trauma. A hurricane is a classic example of a critical incident. I will use my personal experience of living through a hurricane in South Florida. The culture in which this critical incident occurred is the Caribbean, Hispanic and Latin American subcultures living in that part of the country. Many generations of these cultures co-exist, from recent immigrants to those who have been established there as US citizens for decades (James, 2008).
A hurricane is classified as a natural disaster and South Florida is prone to hurricanes. Hurricane season in South Florida begins in June and lasts six months through November. Hurricanes do have a well established and sophisticated warning system in place for the community. However, when a hurricane does hit, many elderly people in the Spanish speaking communities have a tendency to not evacuate when they are asked to by emergency management officials. There are many reasons for this which includes immobility or difficulty with mobility. They also usually do not have transportation, have language barriers and cannot bring themselves to leave their beloved animals, pets or each other behind (James, 2008).
During my experience with one particular hurricane I came across an elderly Cuban American couple. They were in their late stage of life development and had already experienced many hurricane seasons in their homeland of Cuba and in South Florida during their lifetime. This couple escaped the communist regime of Fidel Castro in Cuba and fled to South Florida. They had never returned to Cuba because they were considered political exiles and were not allowed back by their government. Although they experienced hurricane threats in Cuba as young people, they never experienced a tragedy during a hurricane there. However, they have seen destruction, devastation and tragedy in their years living in South Florida, especially when hurricane Andrew devastated the area. That experience profoundly affected them and their response to new trauma. They often refused to evacuate when hurricane warnings were issued because they are afraid that they would have to leave their animals and pets behind and could not bear that thought. They also required transportation, which they did not have, which means they had to rely on public and community services to do so (James, 2008).
As a professional mental health counselor, I adjusted my counseling approach with this couple based on their cultural frame of reference and developmental stage in life. I based my approach on their late life developmental stage. I also considered their cultural needs and I appropriately attended to their language barriers, immobility issues, and their deep rooted attachment to the caring of their animals and pets (James, 2008).
They also required that my approach accommodate the way in which they process stress and information. Perhaps leaving the only home they have known for decades could be too much of a stressful physical change for them. They had the perspective that they would rather stay and protect their humble home and beloved animals and pets rather than leave everything they have behind because of how long it took them to acquire it all. I chose to include in my thinking the possibility of finding shelters where animals and pets are allowed and reassured them that they would be transported back to their home as soon as it is safe to do so. I used very simple language and small steps in trying to reassure them. A lot of patience and seeing the world through their worldview was the most effective approach in this case (James, 2008).
My counseling approach for this critical incident might have been different if the clients were of a different culture. For example, if they were Caucasian, English speaking (monolingual) and living in a more affluent neighborhood. If so, chances are they would have fewer barriers to contend with. They might own a hurricane fortified home that could withstand hurricane winds or have access to transportation to get to a safe place with their animals and pets. They might also have the ability to replace all of their lifelong belongings. This would likely be the case based on a higher socio-economic status. This is not meant as a generalization; however, in South Florida the socioeconomic levels differ quite distinctly between the ethnic communities for the most part, particularly within the Hispanic community. That difference does play a distinct role in how emergency services operate and are delivered. Cultural competency is a necessary part of delivering emergency management services and mental health disaster services (James, 2008).
References:
James, R. K. (2008). Crisis intervention strategies (6th ed.). Belmont, CA: Thomson Brooks/Cole.ISBN: 0495100269
Op-ed: The Most Ignored LGBT Issue
Within the wide scope of LGBT youth services offered at the Florida-based Zebra Coalition, and in many social service organizations, one of the most challenging and critical issues faced by young clients and their case management team is LGBT domestic violence. With so many social and legal issues that the modern day LGBT movement takes on, one of the most ignored is the inter-relationship violence that occurs in many LGBT couples. Even more overlooked is the lack of public policy, law entitlements and resources available to properly treat the issue and its root causes.
http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2013/05/29/op-ed-most-ignored-lgbt-issue
By Anne Aurand • Photos by Joe Kline
Until puberty, Kirsten Winters lived a standard little boy’s life. Then, around age 12, he started stealing his mom’s lingerie, panty hose and high heels, wearing them on the sly.
Winters felt shame about cross-dressing. Yet, Winters explained recently, “it was my serenity. It gave me a sense of being right. Not sexual; it was comfort. We are socialized about what we’re supposed to look like. I didn’t fit that.”
By Xiomara A. Sosa, Clinical Mental Health – Forensic Counselor (Intern)
Founder and Principal, XAS Consulting, LLC
Executive Creator, National Hispanic Mental Health Professionals Network (HMHP)
Impact on Couples and Families
Diversity has a significant impact on the effectiveness of counseling with couples and families and on the quality of services that counselors offer them. The impact that diversity has on couples and families becomes evident in how counselors are able to appropriately perceive those relationships within their specific context. Seeing those relationships within the contexts of their specific diversity allows counselors to recognize the strong influence that it has on them as individuals as well as on their relationships with one another. Couples and families live within societies where their gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, religion, among other diverse factors, influence their world view. Ignoring this would amount to ineffective interventions and unethical counseling practices (Thomlison, 2010).
Impact on Counselors
Diversity also has a direct impact on counselors because it necessitates that they increase their attention to contextual issues in their practice directly related to many different diversity factors. For example, counselors must pay attention to power differences between the sexes and cultures as well as in spirituality and religion. They must also remain crystal clear about their ethical duty to remain non-judgmental towards non-traditional couples and families that include sexual and gender minorities. Counselors view these issues as metaframeworks, which unifies gender, culture, and other diversity factors (Thomlison, 2010).
Gender Identity
One issue related to diversity that may have an impact on a couple’s counseling session is gender identity. A couple that has one partner struggling with issues of gender identity can present with issues that are very different from those of traditional couples. It is important that the counselor have the awareness, knowledge, and cultural competency necessary to provide the appropriate counseling required for the couple and to prevent further distress for them (Thomlison, 2010).
Sexual Orientation and Gender Expression
Other diversity issues in counseling include sexual orientation and gender expression. For example, a family seeking counseling as a result of a child coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, intersex, or questioning can present unique challenges. This requires that the counselor be culturally competent in providing appropriate counseling. It also requires that he or she not allow personal biases, including religious and culture based prejudice or beliefs, to interfere with the appropriate, healthy, and ethically founded response that is mandatory when working in the helping professions. Using affirmative therapy in this instance would be an appropriate, ethical and empirically founded technique rather than using reparative therapy, which is not. It would be vital for the counselor to approach the sessions mindfully to avoid further distressing the family (Thomlison, 2010).
Ethical Counseling Practice
Counselors must address diversity in their practice when providing services to couples and families. Contextual issues have an impact in the lives of individuals in negative and positive ways. It is important that counselors address diversity issues in their practice and that they recognize that ignoring these components is unethical as mental health professionals (Thomlison, 2010).
Reference:
Thomlison, B. (2010). Family Assessment Handbook: An Introductory Practice Guide to Family Assessment (3rd ed.). Belmont, CA: Thomson Brooks/Cole.
Though critics of same-sex marriage may argue that gay unions will destroy heterosexual marriage, a new article published in The Atlantic makes a strong claim to the contrary: that same-sex marriage may actually help strengthen heterosexual marriage.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/23/gay-marriage-benefits_n_3327779.html?ir=Gay+Voices
When a natural disaster hits, such as tornadoes, hurricanes and earthquakes, it’s very hard to avoid images and footage. Even if your preschooler doesn’t watch the news or look at newspapers or magazines, it’s likely that, one way or another, news of the tragedy may reach your little one’s eyes and ears. To that end, it’s important to talk to your child, find out what they know about what is going on (if they know at all that anything is going on) and do your best to allay their fears and concerns. Here’s how.
According to author and psychiatrist Jeffrey P. Kahn, M.D., in his book Angst: Origins of Anxiety & Depression,today’s disorders might’ve been yesterday’s valuable social instincts.
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/05/22/the-origins-of-anxiety/
Depression is one of those health conditions that usurps every part of a suffering individual’s life. Employment, interpersonal relationships responsibilities, motivation, future goals, level of patience, etc. are all affected by depressions sting. As I described in a previous article, depression clouds the sufferers lens so that everything appears nebulous.
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2013/05/coping-with-depression/
Studies estimate that between 1 and 9 million children in the United States have at least one parent who is lesbian or gay. There are approximately 594,000 same-sex partner households, according to the 2000 Census, and there are children living in approximately 27 percent of those households. It is difficult to obtain an accurate count of same-sex parent families because many lesbians and gay men are not open about their sexual orientation due to fears of discrimination, such as loss of employment, loss of child custody, and antigay violence. There is not a “usual” gay family. Some same-sex couples may decide to have a child within their relationship, while others may bring children from previous heterosexual or same-sex unions. The rise in same-sex parenting is partially due to the increase in options available for same-sex couples to become parents. Although most children of same-sex couples are biological children of one of the parents, a growing number are the result of donor insemination, surrogacy, foster care and adoption.
http://www.aamft.org/imis15/Content/Consumer_Updates/Same-sex_Parents_and_Their_Children.aspx
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